The need of letting go

                     

    THE NEED OF LETTING GO

We have always wanted someone to understand us, to feel us, to talk to us without judging, and at some point in our lives we might even find that SOMEONE. You start enjoying your life, you find another reason to live. You let that one person control your life in such a way that neither can you imagine. As the time flies that person is gone out of your life. And believe me they are gone for good, but you no longer remain the same person. You start to question what went so wrong, you start blaming yourself. And here is the worst, you try to get them back. 

I am not writing this blog to just tell you that you should move on and be ready for what is ahead of you. I am here to tell you that I UNDERSTAND. I understand that it is harder than anyone can ever imagine it to be. I know how it feels when that someone to whom you devoted your entire life is just gone, and you have all the right to miss them. Your each cell demands for that one person, more like an addiction, right? Do not blame yourself because that is the power of pure love.

The things mentioned above are true and it is harder than we ever thought possible, but you should know that there is a need of letting go those people who hurt you. I know I can give you thousands of reasons to let go of and you can give me one reason why you can not- you love them. 

I want you to read this blog and decide what is best for you. 

There is always a grudge, or an experience that holds you back from taking better decisions. We sometimes unwelcome other people because of what happened in the past. Blaming our past for our current decision-making is very fulfilling, right? You believe that you can justify anything with your past and this is what makes it even harder for you to get yourself under control. 

Believe me, this does not help in any way. Your past should push you further like a tool and not an excuse to keep you stuck. You cannot live your entire life blaming that one person. That person is gone and now it is your time to hold your head up high and face whatever comes between you and your goals. 

My friend, I know this is hard, but I also know that you are stronger than this. My question to you is, do you really want to change? Do you really desire to let go of that every person who ever hurt you? If you honestly questioned yourself and if your answer is yes, then you will definitely find a way and achieve your true potential. Your mere trying to let go of will help you do wonders. That is the whole idea-- never stop trying. The point here is trying and eventually getting better. 

"What next?" 

Glad you asked! The next thing you do you is you help others. You see, if you are willing to go fast, go alone but if you want to go far, go together. Together you can do wonders, friend. 

"Do you have to forgive?"

You can forgive someone and still cannot let go, but if you want to let go, you have to forgive. Makes sense? Forgiveness and letting go of are two different things but are linked with one another.

Let us say you have let go of that person, you are all cool and your life seems perfect, but on one unfortunate day you run into that person. You talked, maybe laughed a little, had a fine time and then you came back home. Even though you had a good time a part of you was not satisfied. There was a teeny tiny grudge in you and that is the grudge of not forgiving. 

My advice to you is to forgive them even if they have not asked for it not because they deserve your forgiveness but because you want peace. 

You can still hold on to that grudge and things would still be daisies and rainbows in front of others. But the point here is you to be truly happy. That tiny bitterness is large enough to silently sabotage your life. You might not even recognise it, but it can. 

The power of forgiveness and letting go when blended together will help you create the better version of yourself. 

This article might have directed you to different tracks, but brings to the asked destination- you. I want you to let go everything that ever hurt you because you, my friend, deserve the best.